My 25th Wedding Anniversary is Approaching

August 6th is my and my husband’s 25th wedding anniversary. I consider it a major accomplishment and blessing. Many of our contemporaries did not make it, thus the sense of accomplishment. The blessing I feel is due to not knowing what I would do, if ever I rolled over in the night and my husband was not there reassuring me that I am not alone in this world.  There are many nights I can’t turn my mind off and would worry myself into the ground without his presence.

Often people do not realize that marriage truly is just an agreement to work together for the same future. It does not matter how much you think you love one another if you are like Dr. Dooliittle’s Pushme Pullme.

To love, it is not only to look at one another but to look in the same direction.
— Author:Antoine de Saint-Exopery
I am adding some prompts and quotes for marriage or in the present culture significant other.

Even if you never tell your mate what they mean to you, because of the intense vulnerability that would cause, it wouldn’t hurt to write down some of the things they do that you find the most endearing, and the things you would most miss if they were no longer with you. It will remind you how lucky you are and put a little lift in your step and joy in your heart.  If you are presently despising the ground your mate walks on because they yet again put the empty milk carton back in the fridge and then left their wet towel in the floor, maybe you could make a list of things you used to like about them.

Now on to the quotes.

This one I like very well. I suits very well how I felt when I got married. I felt like the children in C.S. Lewis’ The Lion, The Witch And The Wardrobe. I felt like I was stepping into another world and even if it still looked somewhat like our world, it still held quite a bit of the unknown.

The wedding is the event, the marriage is the journey

— Author:Unknown
There is always one moment in childhood when the door opens and lets the future in

— Author:Graham Greene

” Only love can be divided endlessly, and still not diminish.”

— Author:Anne Morrow Lindbergh

“And when my lips meet thine, thy very soul is wedded into mine.”

— Author:H.H. Boyesen
“Love is the closest thing we have to magic.”

— Author:from the movie “Aquamarine”

Believe in “happily ever after” and it will come true

— Author:Jane Dettmering
For hearing my thoughts,
understanding my dreams,
and being my best friend…
For filling my life with music,
and loving me without end…
I do.

— Author:Wedding verse

Man and wife, being two, are one in love.
~William Shakespeare

— Author:William Shakespeare

The best romance is inside the marriage;
the finest love stories come after the wedding, not before.
~ Irving Stone

— Author:Irving Stone

The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase.

— Author:Sir Hugh Walpole

The wedding is the event, the marriage is the journey

— Author:Unknown
there are six billion people in the world.
but sometimes, all you need is one.

— Author:unknown

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QUOTES ON MOTHERHOOD AND MY THOUGHTS ON SAHM

THIS ONE IS ONE OF MY FAVS

“Of all the rights of women, the greatest is to be a mother.”
— Lin Yutang

“The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.” — Honore’ de Balzac (1799-1850)

“The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom.”
— Henry Ward Beecher (1813-1887)

“Youth fades; love droops, the leaves of friendship fall;
A mother’s secret hope outlives them all.”
— Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894)

“Mother’s arms are made of tenderness,
and sweet sleep blesses the child who lies therein.”
— Victor Hugo

“To understand a mother’s love, bear your own children.”
— Chinese Proverb

“The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom.”
— Henry Ward Beecher

” Mother is the name for God on the lips
and in the hearts of little children.”
— William Makepeace Thackeray

” What is home without a mother?”
— Alice Hawthorne

” Who is it that loves me and will love me forever with an affection which no chance, no misery, no crime of mine can do away? — It is you, my mother.”
— Thomas Carlyle

“When God thought of mother, He must have laughed with satisfaction, and framed it quickly—so rich, so deep, so divine, so full of soul, power, and beauty, was the conception.”
— Henry Ward Beecher

“I think my life began with waking up and loving my mother’s face.”
— George Eliot

“Mothers reflect God’s loving presence on earth.”
— William R. Webb

“There is no friendship, no love, like that of the parent for the child.”
— Henry Ward Beecher

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” –Washington Irving

I LIKE ERMA BOMBECK QUOTES LOGIC TEMPERED WITH HUMOR

“It is not until you become a mother that your judgment slowly turns to compassion and understanding.”

THIS ONE COULD HAVE DONE ME SOME GOOD A FEW TIMES OVER THE YEARS WHEN I HAD TO BE THE BAD GUY

I Like this quote I dislike this quote“The mother loves her child most divinely, not when she surrounds him with comfort and anticipates his wants, but when she resolutely holds him to the highest standards and is content with nothing less than his best.”

Hamilton Wright Mabie

Now for my blog entry.

When I was growing up during the 70’s, womens lib was more or less a done deal. We were told that as females, we could do anything a man could do, and so were obligated to do so. I received a good education and was an honor role student all the way through school. My parents however, sent mixed signals. Our religion was very fundamental and while the educated part of my Father told me I could do anything I put my mind to and he expected me to go to college, He also as a Minister told me that he did not believe a mother should work outside the home. My own Mother had done so and I thought she did it at his request. I guess he regretted it.

When I was a young mother, one of my husbands friends married my friend. They both worked and it appeared to be necessary for them to make ends meet.
Jerrys friend tole me that I should be ashamed of myself for being lazy and sitting around on my backside and living off of Jerry. I don’t remember what my response was, but I never was very friendly with that couple after that. When we decided to have a child, I told Jerry that I did not believe in working and raising children at the same time unless it was necessary to pay the bills. I told him to think about it and then tell me what he had decided before I quit working. He agreed with my terms.Due to this, I did not believe I was living off of him. If I worked, he would have to pay someone else for childcare. Since I was the mother of our child, what other person would be better to be supported by his money? I also, did the brunt of the cooking, cleaning, book keeping, and a myriad of other jobs required to run a household. Bachelors usually have to pay someone else to do those things or puppy dog face their mother into doing it.I really do not believe that the average hoiuse wife and SAHM is payed even minimum wage and there have been studied that back that up.

I believe that being a mother is the most important job you can have and it should be your priority. My Mother had to work, or at least thought she had to, when I was small and and my brother and I were abused by our caregivers. I did not want to repeat that. I have taught my children empathy,and a love for learning. I know how to do many things that I taught myself to do, because I had the time to do it, and I can still learn many more things.In that sense, I have a luxury many working mothers do not have. I have also given my children a belief in God and a strong character. I gave them the ability to take care of themselves and the self confidence to do it. They know that I thought that they were more important than the newest clothing and shoe styles, the newest cars on the dealers lots and any amount of money. I taught them that those are not what is important in life.

I will not denegrate any mother who works outside the home. They have their reasons for doing so. I once had a man say that it was a sin for a woman to work outside the home. I asked him what she was supposed to do if her husband was sick or disabled. Hesaid that other church people were supposed to help her and her children. I was in just such a situation at that time and was receiving no help. I asked him if it ever occured to him that pioneer women who went to the fields with their husbands were working outside the home? And when their husbands went on hunting trips and they had the whole farm to run and to protect from Native Americans, they were doing mens work? He got really flustered. As I said working mothers have their reasons and I have mine. I may not make the kind of money other parents do, but I feel that I have lived a very fulfilled life thus far. As long as the kids are the priority, then whichever path you choose will be the right one. It took me a long time to come to the conclusion that womens liberation or equality is the right to choose what you want to do either way.

If you would like some more Mother quotes here is a good link quote garden

Great Quotes on Arguing

Like most people who like to write, I can be overly verbose. I enjoy a good debate. Unfortunately, most people do not know the difference between debate and a knock down, crag out, free for all. I can argue a point I don’t even believe in, intelligently and in a well informed manner for entertainment. I guess I get it from my grandfather. He said his brothers and sisters (there were 12 of them) used to sit around in the evening and see who could tell the biggest lie. That was his way of saying they made up stories to tell.

Other aspects of my contrariness, cause me to think it is amusing to say things above someone’s head if they are being insulting to me. I figure it hurts nothing for them to think they got one over on me for now and then years later, realize I had insulted them and/or put them in their place and they had been too stupid to know it. My husbands sister is a favorite victim. She is one of those people who will bait you in public to try and get you to lose your temper and make you look foolish. As one of these quotes says keeping a cool head wins more arguments than anger. A cool head can win an argument even when you are wrong.

This one is my favorite.

The difficult part in an argument is not to defend one’s opinion, but rather to know it.
Andre Maurois, pseudonym of Émile Herzog, 1885 – 1967

The reason I never lose an argument, is because I won’t open my mouth unless I know what I am talking about.

This one basically says you also have to have some talent for persuasion, even if you are right.

He who wants to persuade should put his trust not in the right argument, but in the right word. The power of sound has always been greater than the power of sense.
Joseph Conrad, 1857 – 1924

It does not matter how many points you make unless they are valid.

The number of arguments is unimportant unless some of them are correct.
Ralph Hartley

Here’s the one about keeping a level head and even temper. I always say, if you lose your temper, you have lost the argument.

Nothing does reason more right, than the coolness of those that offer it: For Truth often suffers more by the heat of its defenders, than from the arguments of its opposers.
William Penn, 1621 – 1670

This one is amusing to me. I have always believed the reason some people take offense at you having a different opinion than they do, is because they are afraid you will change their mind and maybe shake their foundations a little.

I dislike arguments of any kind. They are always vulgar, and often convincing.
Oscar Wilde, 1854 – 1900

I was told a story once about a Minister who was trying to teach a woman something that was in the Bible. She kept telling him that it wasn’t in her Bible. He finally asked her to bring her Bible to him so he could show her. When she brought it to him, he turned to where the chapter should be and the page had been torn out. When he looked up, she said,”See, I told you it wasn’t in my Bible”.

I am not easily influenced but when someone has a valid argument, I do not keep arguing for the sake of argument. I like to learn more than I like argument.