The Disadvantages of Being Right

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via FoxyTunes I am usually right. It’s not arrogance that makes me say that. I make it a point not to open my mouth to voice an opinion unless I know what I am talking about. I am a firm believer in reason and logic. I have known a lot of people that think that they are right and will hold out to the very end before admitting they might not be. My husband comes from a family of people who believe whoever yells the loudest and says the meanest things to win the argument is right. Boy do they hate it, when you refuse to be ruffled by all of the bluster and stand your ground.

One of the disadvantages of always being right is that people get angry about it and resent it, even if you are not an “I told you so” person. I’m not. No sense in kicking someone in the teeth. I found a quote today that suits this subject marvelously.

Men are apt to mistake the strength of their feeling for the strength of their argument. The heated mind resents the chill touch and relentless scrutiny of logic.–William Ewart Gladstone, 1809 – 1898

When not in an argument, people do tend to respect my opinion though. I guess being well informed on the things I do know about has some perks. I am also a fount of useless knowledge. Some of the things I know are bizarre. Once when my kids were eating peanut butter sandwiches with honey on them, they wondered how bees made honey. I told them it was bee vomit. For a half an hour I tried to convince them, I wasn’t teasing them. I eventually had to get out an encyclopedia and read to them that the final product of honey was regurgitated(and then explain that it means vomit).

That calls to mind another disadvantage to being right. People think you are really weird if you know weird things.

Two thoughts come to mind:

Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answers to.

Keep your mouth shut and look dumb, or open it and remove all doubt.

That’s why when I do open my mouth, I want to be correct.

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6 thoughts on “The Disadvantages of Being Right

  1. Eric says:

    Interesting, those regurgitating bees. 🙂

    It saddened me to see the European honey bee dying off recently. We watched a story on 60 minutes a couple weeks ago about it. A beekeeper was lamenting over the fact that he’d lost so many bees, which are necessary to pollinate a lot of the foods we take for granted.

    Here are few links you might find interesting:
    http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a5_040.html

  2. Hummie says:

    Hummie<————-currently in deep thought.

  3. Cheryl says:

    This also applies when you correct people with their grammar or pronunciation. Here in the Philippines where English is a second language, majority of people here look down their noses on English language speakers–especially when the conversation is done casually. Most people here are used to speaking the local language so they think you’re bragging if you speak English well.

    Also, one has to choose when to correct as either one is inevitable– you may gain some friends or have enemies.

    • lascorpia64 says:

      In general it is bad manners to correct anyone in a way that is embarrassing to them. I don’t remember if it was in Emily Post or where, but many years ago, I read that it is very bad manners to correct someone else’s manners, you are supposed to teach by example. However, it wouldn’t do to keep your mouth shut and let someone make a fool of themselves, when you could take them aside and give them some helpful suggestions.

  4. Cheryl says:

    By the way, I love your blog posts 🙂

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