Abstinence Or Moderation??

I have been thinking about the human need to reproduce. I will refrain from being more explicit than that. My Mother asked her Grandmother what they used to do for birth control when she was a young woman. She told Mom that they just abstained, yes that is the word the old woman used.

The amusing thing about it was she had 12 kids. My Mom said she remembered thinking that her grandparents must not have abstained very often.

My Mom had the Rh- and RH+ problem when I was born and when my brother was born he was so jaundiced that they had preped him for a blood transfusion. The doctors told her that if she had any more babies they would probably be brain damaged. So she opted to have her tubes tied. She didn’t have to worry about birth control any more.

When I was first married, I took birth control pills and then a few of the other options. They all made me sick in one way or another.  But I still managed to have both of my kids on purpose, as opposed to accidental, unplanned or whatever you prefer to call it.

I had a very hard time with my son’s birth. I was in the hospital for 10 days. I was told that the next time would likely be worse. So, it was very important for me not to get pregnant again, because if I had a stroke or died, my children would be orphaned.  I did have a few scares and a few miscarriages, so I can relate to that happening, but I had insurance and enough money to feed and care for children.

I just have a hard time understanding people not being responsible for their reproduction.  I understand physical needs, but I don’t think you should have sex unless you are prepared to take the risk of disease or pregnancy.  So, I guess I believe in responsibility , because abstinence didn’t work for my great grandma then and it is not likely to work now.

With that in mind, here are a few quotes on abstinence, which agree with moderation.

“Use, do not abuse; neither abstinence nor excess ever renders man happy.             Voltaire quotes (French Philosopher and Writer. One of the greatest of all French authors, 1694-1778)

Half the vices, which the world condemns most loudly, have seeds of good in them and require moderate use rather than total abstinence.

Samuel Butler